Did your parents raise you well and teach you excellent manners? Do you say “please” and “thank you” and avoid putting your elbows on the table? Well done! But are you overdoing it? Here are a few well-intentioned habits that may seem polite on the surface but can easily cause offense.

1. Complimenting someone on their new look
This one is pretty obvious and direct, but most of them are not always said on a light note or with a clean heart; there is always a different agenda in them.

Complimenting someone who’s just made a drastic change to their appearance, such as by losing a lot of weight, is a delicate business. Saying something like, “Wow! I can’t believe how great you look!” implies the person wasn’t particularly attractive before. Choose your words wisely!

2. Inquiring, ‘Hey, how is it going at a funeral?
At a funeral, you need to take the cheerfulness down a notch. Greet someone with too much chirp in your voice, and you’ll be given the cold shoulder. Look around—you’re at a funeral. The answer you get isn’t likely to be “Never been better!” You surely cannot act like someone who doesn’t know what is going on. If you cannot at least respect the person bereaved, then try respecting the dead. The last thing you want is to ruin those people’s mood. (Have a little dignity.)

3. Offering unsolicited advice
You got a friend who, in one way or another, decided to confide in you. All they really want is for you to give them a listening ear, and your opinions at times don’t really matter. You don’t need to share your take or opinion on matters that are more personal. Who knows, you may ruin it. Just listen to it and answer when necessary.

4. Saying, “I’ll call you.”
While on dates, To avoid awkwardness at the end of a first date, some people (you know who you are) use this line to be “polite,” but it is good to not say it too often.

5. Giving directions when you’re not at the wheel
I was a victim of this one once. Having someone not even give you directions but show you how to drive can indeed be hectic. Ever been in a scenario whereby you are driving and then they are like, Don’t be too close? Hit the brakes. Don’t overtake yet. like they are always talking. Take the left lane. Hit the gas pedal now. How about you indicate? For heaven sake, I know what I am doing. Those kinds of people do really irritate someone a lot, and most of them are the ones being dropped off somewhere as they are on a lift.

6. Congratulating Someone on Their Pregnancy
Okay, let’s not rule out that there’s a good way of doing so, but how about a little protocol? “How far along are you?” Never assume a woman is pregnant. If you’re wrong, not only will you make things incredibly awkward, but most importantly, you’ll also really hurt someone’s feelings.

7. Guessing someone’s age
If someone asks you to guess their age, don’t fall into the trap! You should never try to play that game. The person, of course, is hoping you’ll think they’re younger than they really are.

The polite way to go is to take a few years off your real guess. Keep in mind that not everyone is free, as some people are so emotional and petty they can turn on you real quick and even end up hating you for life. \ When there’s really nothing to hate, you see, we were not all created the same.

8. Putting yourself in someone else’s shoes
Other people’s problems often seem so simple. There’s a good reason for that: They’re not yours! Although you might mean well, you should avoid giving advice that begins with “If I were you…” because you could come across as judgmental.

Also remember that what you wish for happens exactly to you in the same way as you called it out.

9. Why Are You Still Single?
If this is not being savage and prideful, I don’t really know. The fact that your friend is not in a relationship yet doesn’t mean you take that moment to tray, demotivate, and attack them with lines like, ‘Time is flying. You are missing out; without even knowing why they are the way they are, it’s not right. You’d rather keep quiet and keep it to yourself; you have no right whatsoever to judge these very people.

10. Doing the dishes at Your Friend’s Place
There’s nothing wrong with helping out; in fact, it is encouraged to do so, but do so only when given the green light to do so, unless you live there. You can’t just pull up a rag and start cleaning the floor without the owner’s permission. The question will be, ‘What’d you take me for? What are you trying to prove here? You don’t want it to get there.