Signs You Need To Take a Break From Dating

Most people like to be part of a relationship. You know, to go to sleep on Bae’s buff chest with his arms tight around you and to wake up to him smiling, shirtless, offering you a mug of coffee. It’s the dream, right?

The process of getting here is a different story, but who can blame you for hating it? Yeah, that’s actually a dream each one of us wants to have and live at the moment. We want to live the Hollywood way—the filmed love story way. The problem we don’t get with copying the film is that it is scripted and people are just acting for the sake of it and creating a story, and it doesn’t last after the movie because people go back to living their lives. So, you know…

It is crazy out here lately, especially in relationships. Even in marriages, people are breaking up left, right, and center. Even those in marriages are not happy, and they may just be there for the sake of the kids.

Here’s how you can tell that you are dating fatigued and need to take a break from dating.

Dates start to feel overwhelming.
Dates should be fun. It should be you putting on your best clothes and wearing that perfectly scented perfume.

It’s a bad sign if it becomes the opposite.If you are exhausted just from the thought of going on a date with someone new, you need to take a break. Take care of yourself first. Finding that special someone is not a matter of life or death. Work on yourself first; you got to love yourself first; that is the only way it is going to be easier to include a second party in your life.

It is now controlling you.
If all you can think about when you get out of your house in the morning is whether you will meet someone new, you need to stop. If the first thing you do when you get onto a matatu is scan the faces to see if there’s a man you can date, it’s time for you to find another hobby.

Waking up with that notion, maybe today I’ll meet an angel. Maybe……. you should definitely drop that saying, as dating should be something you add to your already-striving life that’s running smoothly; consider it a bonus.

You need to meet someone because your ex has met someone.
Playing the mark times games, you’ve ended your relationship, like the two of you are no longer dating, but you have eyes fixed on your partner, like, Will they move on? Have they moved on? You are always stalking them, following up on their lives to see what they are up to.If so, You really have a serious problem,you need to make amends with yourself first.

On the aspect of wanting to get a new partner just because you’ve seen your ex move, that is the dumbest thing you can ever do to yourself, because what that will mean is that you are not being real and true to yourself.

You are doubting your self-worth.
Are you getting frustrated because you have been on so many dates and yet you haven’t found one person you would want to go on a second date with? Yes? Take a break.

A healthy dating life isn’t supposed to feel like a roller coaster or take a toll on your emotions. If it does, it’s a sign that it’s time to take a break to re-group.

Who knows? Maybe your happily ever after is you alone. Don’t kill yourself trying to prove a point, and keep up with the pressure of social media and society. There’s actually no point. Who told you they were living paradise heaven on earth? Be you; do things your way; your turn will come; don’t hurriedly rush things.